Lesbrary Review by Danika

Missed Her by Ivan E. Coyote.

Ivan E. Coyote is one of my very favourite queer writers. When giving recommendations for les/bi/etc books, Sarah Waters and Ivan E. Coyote are at the top of the list (though their styles are pretty different). Ivan is often described as a “kitchen table storyteller,” and it’s true. Her stories read as if one of your good friends is relating an anecdote to you, if your friends are really good at telling stories. If you ever get the chance to see Ivan perform in person, I highly recommend it. In the meantime, pick up her books.

Missed Her is a collection of semi-autobiographical stories–Ivan treads the line between memoir and fiction. Some common themes run through the stories, including being queer in a small town. I find this especially interesting, because when the “It Gets Better” project was getting a lot of coverage, there was some criticism about how many of the stories talked about getting out of small towns, and how it didn’t address how rural communities can change, or the positive aspects of them, or even how constantly moving queer people out of rural environments and into urban ones just perpetuates any bigotry in hostile towns (not that anyone has an obligation to stay in a threatening environment, I want to clarify). We’re used to queer stories being set in the big city, so it’s interesting and pertinent to have another narrative. (Ivan currently lives in Vancouver, so it’s not all small town, but growing up in the Yukon made a strong impression on her.)

Ivan presents a different image of being queer in a small town. Her family was supportive, and she appreciates that the peoples she meets in these towns are more likely to simply ask what they’re thinking instead of skirting around the issue. She has a story set in a small town in which a bunch of men gather around so she can teach them how to properly tie a tie. She does still acknowledge the disadvantages and even dangers of some of these small towns, however, especially when she describes trying to find a rural doctor accepting of her gender presentation.

Ivan’s stories have all sorts of variety, though. There’s some heart-breaking ones and some hilarious ones, though usually it’s a bit of both. (Some topics: looking for an old-fashioned barber in Vancouver, teaching memoir-writing to seniors, repeatedly being mistaken for a gay man, stories about her family, and musings on her butch identity and the policing of the label.)

There’s not much more to say than that I highly recommend it!

– Danika


4 thoughts on “Lesbrary Review by Danika

  1. This has been sitting on my shelf for a few months and damn school has been preventing me from reading it! Glad to know that it lives up to Coyote’s other fantastic work! She really is a fantastic kitchen-table style storyteller, both in person and on the page!

  2. Her stories read as if one of your good friends is relating an anecdote to you, if your friends are really good at telling stories.

    That just put her on my must-read list. She sounds fascinating.

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